How To Juggle Writing and Working A Full-Time Job

Making Writing Your Priority

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Here Are Some Tips to Juggle Your Primary Job and Writing

  1. Make Writing A Priority

You need to decide what’s important to you when it comes to your life. For me, it’s family first, my main occupation, then writing. Until I’m able to become a writer full-time, this is the order of priority. Some day I hope to place writing second. The interesting thing is I’m so excited about writing that I think about it way more than my main occupation. I’m much more intrigued about the potential to make writing a full-time career. That’s the future I’m pushing towards.

I have a full-time job. I work 40 hours per week and make a solid living working. I’m fortunate to be in a position where I get a little bit of downtime throughout the day to focus on writing. In my spare time, I’m either writing on Medium or focusing on my thriller novel.

2. Set Aside Time To Write Every Single Day

You just have to put it somewhere in your schedule. It can be any time and anywhere. You need to make it part of your routine. Like anything else, it requires consistency. Eating breakfast, lunch, and dinner is part of your routine. Sleeping is part of your routine, maybe exercising. Now it needs to be writing. Once you do that, it will become easier to get it done every day.

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3. Decide How Important Your Full-Time Job Is

For me, it’s extremely important. It provides my family and kids a nice middle-class life. Am I happy to be in my current position? You bet. Do I want to do it forever? No.

Would I like to write full-time in the future? Yes. It keeps me motivated knowing there is enormous potential to make this a full-time career. I’ve already mastered my current job and I like the idea of improving upon my passion, which is writing.

4. Figure Out Your Writing Niche

What are you good at when it comes to writing? What are you passionate about? Whatever it is, that’s what you should be writing about. Decide on what you’re interested in and this will make your writing better. Then practice over and over again until your writing improves. What do you enjoy reading? If you’re writing a novel, read plenty of books in the same genre while you’re writing to improve upon your craft.

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Follow these tips above to help balance out your life and writing.

How To Create A Memorable Villain For Your Novel

Ideas For A Villain To Remember

Here are some ideas to create a villain that people will remember long after they finish your book.

  1. They Have A Dark Past.

Your villian needs to have a dark past, something that’s happened to them that has morphed their personality into something completely different than what it was before. No one starts out evil, but people are influenced by what happens to them when they’re younger. How did they become the person they are today? What’s the motivation behind their actions? You’ll want to expand on this when writing.

2. They Believe They Speak The Truth

Villains have an unwavering belief that their actions are completely valid. It doesn’t matter what they do or how horrific it might be. They have justifications in everything they do. Write about those justifications in your novel.

3. They Experienced A Rough Childhood

A common trait for a villain is experiencing a bad upbringing. Maybe your villain was abused by their parents. Maybe their parents ended up in jail and your villain couldn’t handle the stress of taking everything on by himself. Your brother beat you up or you were bullied in school and now you need to get revenge.

4. Their Parents Died At The Hands of Someone Else

This is a common revenge story. Your parents are killed by someone else and you spend your entire life getting revenge for them. How did they die? How did that impact your future? Batman is a common example. Growing up without parents can have a negative impact on a young child, which can create a great villain.

5. They’ve become someone else.

You can slowly change them over time. They can have good intentions in the beginning of the story and that can evolve. The perfect example would be Walter White in Breaking Bad. He started out trying to save money for his family because he knew he was going to die of cancer and then of course later he became Heisenberg.

6. They Have A Brilliant Mind

Your villain can be as smart as they come. In many cases, that’s how they’re able to pull off these atrocities without getting caught. They’re smarter than everyone in the room. Just because someone’s bad, it doesn’t mean you have to dumb them down.

7. They Should Look The Part

Your villain should look scary. People should know they’re the villain when they see them. This makes them larger than life and scarier in person. Darth Vader is a cool and menacing figure even in his suit. Hannibal Lecter has a look that says, “Don’t come near me if you want a cupcake.” He does like eating though.

Your villain should frighten someone by appearance alone, let alone his actions, which can be much worse. Your villain can portray any type of personality you want, but try to make him or her memorable and delve into their past.

Should You Share What You’re Writing Before It’s Finished?

When To Share Your Writing

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When Should You Tell People What You’ve Written?

All the time. I’m almost 20,000 words into my thriller novel and I enjoy talking about it. This will be my first book and I wasn’t even sure I was capable of writing that many words. I have a strong belief I will finish it one day.

Why do I tell friends and family?

I want to gauge other people’s reactions. I want to get an idea of whether I’m pitching to other people in the correct manner. Are people excited when I tell them about my book or are they bored out of their minds? This way, when my book is finally complete and I’m ready to type up a query letter, I’ll have a good idea of what works and what doesn’t.

If you’re passionate about something, you should share it with the world.

Should you email someone a first draft?

There are plenty of different viewpoints on this. Some people would scoff at the idea of letting a friend or family member read something before it’s absolutely perfect. I believe strongly in letting people read my novel as I write it. I’ve had about 8 people read my first draft and I’ve received some great feedback that I wouldn’t have caught on my own. I’m biased so of course I think my novel is amazing. It doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s true. I’ve managed to get an idea of what sections people like and which ones need to be streamlined.

The question becomes, “Are the people reading your story giving you honest feedback or are they just saying nice things because they’re friends and family?”

It’s tough to gauge the type of feedback you’re getting. I’m fortunate in that some of my readers are very blunt people so I know they’re not sugar coating things for me. If you share your work with people before it’s done, make sure you have enough beta readers to get a wide variety of opinions and view points.

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Having someone else put their lense on your novel before it’s done can be a scary thing. It can be disheartening or might even disourage you from continuing on.

How else will you get better unless you get readers who like the genre you’re writing in to give you feedback?

What to Read When You’re Writing

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You should be reading while you’re writing. Why? It sparks ideas for you regardless of the genre you’re writing in. Currently, I’m writing a thriller novel and that’s my primary focus. I have a full-time job, take care of my kids, and consistently tell my wife “Okay, fine. I’ll take care of that.” When I’m not doing one of those three things, I’m reading a book or writing.

Every night, I set aside 15–30 minutes to read. I’m reading “Missing You” by Harlan Coben. It’s in the genre I’m writing so when I’m reading, I’m also focusing on how he writes, his tone, and plot structure.

Do you need to read in the same genre you’re writing in?

No, you could pull ideas from anything and anywhere. There is a little bit of romance in the book I’m writing. That didn’t come from any thriller or mystery novels I’ve read. Those ideas came from a romantic movie I’ve watched. That’s why you shouldn’t limit your reading to the genre you’re writing in.

How important is it to read consistently?

It’s almost a necessity. Imagine the best basketball players in the world saying to the coach, “I’ll play in the game, but there’s no way I’m practicing or working out.” You have to do these things to build your craft. Reading will help you build your writing skills. You should try to read a book that’s similar to how you write and another book that’s completely different. This way you can look at both points of view to improve.

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Keep writing and continue reading and you’ll master your craft in no time.


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Why do I keep throwing birthday parties for my kids?

Oh yeah, that’s right. It’s because I love them. Today we had my older son’s birthday party at 9 am. He just turned six last week. My wife stayed up until 4 am this morning getting ready for the party. That’s right, 4 am. She slept for two hours. She wins. We took him to Legoland and completely spoiled him for the day for his actual birthday. He ate dessert four times. I asked my wife a year ago, “Can we just take our son to SeaWorld instead of throwing a party every year?” Her response was “No way.” Well, I tried, right?

Today was our 9th birthday party in a row we’ve thrown for our two kids. Each party has been over the top and beyond stressful. Many of my friends have stopped throwing parties for their kids, opting instead for family outings to save money and decrease the stress that comes along with planning a party.

My Lovely Wife Always Goes Overboard

My wife is a perfectionist. Everythig has to be just right in her mind. Yesterday alone, I went to Target twice and Party City twice to pick up all of the supplies, fruit, and balloons we needed. This morning I went to Panera Bread at 7:30 am and picked up my order of 50 bagels. I picked up the bag and asked the clerk, “Is everything in this one bag?” She responded, “Yeah.” Then she turned around and read the receipt on the bag behind her. “Wait, this one’s yours too.” Close one.

The list of things to do for the party was beyond long. For the party itself, we had it at a splash zone filled with cool water slides. We brought plenty of water guns, frisbees, balls, pails, and other pool toys for my kids and their friends to play with.

We had to arrive by 8:30 this morning to set up before our 35 friends who rsvp’d yes started pouring in. We arrived at 8:39 am. The stress of getting there late and the urgency to get everything decorated and set up on time caused plenty of arguing between my wife and I when we arrived. Not my idea of a good start to our son’s party.

The party was a Lego theme. My wife baked chocolate cupcakes with a lego candy topping, a cake that looked like a lego block, and had lego books as give away prizes. We had a lego banner and wore customized lego shirts. Did she do a fantastic job on the party and it’s theme? Definitely. Was it worth staying up until 4 am? Who knows?

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Did my son have a good time?

As I played in the splash zone with my two boys, I could tell they were having a blast. Some of their friends from school were there and it really looked like they had a great time. I had a blast as well. I played catch with both of my sons and went down the water slide. My wife didn’t dip her toe in the water once. She was too busy making sure the party went off without a hitch, for two and a half hours straight. By the time she was ready to go in the water, the aquatic center had turned everything off.

While I watched my son eat his cupcakes, cake, and popsicles, I could tell he was in dessert heaven. Then when he got home and opened up all his presents, it brought a smile to his face.

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The question remains: Was it worth it?

Hopefully my son remembers this birthday party forever.

Only time will tell.

Write Like There’s No Tomorrow

Tips For Writing Efficiently The First Time

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When you write like it’s the last time you’ll ever put your thoughts on paper, your writing will get better. You’ll have a sense of urgency and become more efficient and effective at writing.

  1. Edit As You Write

When I write, I rarely make huge mistakes as I type. This is because of my need for everything to be perfect. I complete my sentences and make sure everything is correct the first time. I’m not the type of person that just puts words down and hopes to edit it all later on down the road. A common suggestion is to spill your thoughts on to paper as fast as possible, no matter how bad the punctuation, and then to fix it in the futre. A better suggestion, in my opinion, is to make your writing as clean as you can up front to improve the quality of your writing. That way you’re thinking ahead of time about the best possible way to write.

2. Avoid Spelling Mistakes

It’s also common practice for people who are writing novels to get hundreds of pages out of their system and mispell word after word along the way. Personally, I try to make sure every word is spelled correctly as I write them. This way I’m not in any danger of missing anything along the way. The last thing I want is to write a novel and make a mistake on editing it and then have it published with an incorrect word.

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3. Create Better Content

When you’re on top of your writing game, your content improves dramatically. You’ll think of better ideas that will entertain and influence others when you write with a clear mind. When you think of each story being the last, a better quality of writing will occur and you’ll maximize your productivity. Your story will get better and the material will stand out above the rest.

Approach each article, blog, essay, or novel in this manner and you’ll overall productivity will increase.

Why Are Adults Obsessed With Getting Younger?

Tips For Staying Young At Heart

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It seems like as we get older, most of us just want to be young again. We’ll do anything to reverse the aging process. Here are the great lengths people will go through to keep from having time turn against them:

  1. Work Out Harder

People have an obsession with looking good. We go to the gym, lift heavy weights, take spin classes, do yoga in a room with the temperature turned up to 105 degrees, run marathons, jump rope, swim, play basketball, etc. The list goes on and on. Some people work or play sports for pure enjoyment or for work-related purposes. Others do it so they can feel good about themselves. If you’re like me, you do it to feel young again, no matter how many injuries you accumulate. Inexplicably, I still think I can move around at the age of 39 like I did when I was 19. Exercising can bring our minds back to when we were younger so we don’t feel like we’re aging quickly.

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2. Keep Up With Your Young Kids

Young kids have so much energy, they don’t know how to let it out other than to run around as fast as they can and cause complete chaos at home. My six year old now runs faster than I do. Even if I beat him in a race, I’m so out of breath, it’s like I walked the Sahara. Meanwhile, he’s telling me to race again. Parents think they can beat their kids at anything. At a certain age, our kids eventually surpass us. The first time I beat my dad at basketball, I was 12 years old and I felt like I conquered the world. Keep up with your kids and you’ll stay young at heart.

3. Party Like You’re Back In College

Some parents will get baby sitters just to go back to the club and dance like they’re 21 again. Why? Well, it makes them feel young again. For a few hours, all of the hardship you experience as an adult can just wash away while you’re surrounded by people half your age doing moves you’re now completely unfamiliar with.

Other adults will drink like they’re at a frat party. It can bring back good memories of being young again, until you can’t remember anything that happened. Drinking was the thing to do in college and some people don’t want to stop being cool. Girls night and guys night out without the kids can be a great way to travel back in time.

4. Get Plastic Surgery

Plastic surgery is no longer for emergencies. As we get older, we feel a strong need to look our best and age backward. We watch Jennifer Lopez and Halle Berry seemingly look better as they get older and wonder how we can keep up. Some people get face lifts to get rid of the wrinkles. Others will get breast or butt implants, anything to age in the opposite direction. Self-esteem is a huge reason plastic surgery is so popular. We want to feel our best and in order for that to happen, we need to look our best. We go to great lengths to make that occur.

5. Eat Healthy

Many people eat well for dietary reasons and to avoid gaining weight. Eating well can slow down the aging process, depending on what you eat.

According to, (, these are the 10 foods that can help your skin look better.

Watercress, Red Bell Peppers, Papaya, Blueberries, Broccoli, Spinach, Nuts, Avocado, Sweet Potatoes, and Pomegrante Seeds.

Eating well can stave off diseases like diabetes and cancer, as well as provide more energy throughout the day.

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6. Sleep Better

Sleeping a solid 7–9 hours per night does wonders for your health and can take years off of your life. It can also help prevent cancer, reduce stress, decrease inflammation in your body, improve your memory, make you more alert, lose weight, and help the body repair itself. Make sure your sleep is uninterrupted as well and it pays to not snooze multipe times. Now that I’m older, I’m getting less sleep. It’s not on purpose, but I have young kids so it goes with the territory.

As a society, many of us strive for perfection in all aspects of our lives. Unfortunately, time never quits and because of that, we’ll do anything we can to slow it down.